A lot of women want to or feel like they have to be okay with their partner viewing porn, yet struggle with the true feelings they have about it. Porn can be a confusing topic. On one hand it seems fairly common and something all guys like, and on the other hand it can feel disrespectful, repulsive or many other things.
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Men who regularly give in to porn often have a lot of anger toward their wives. I need to thank the men who have shared their struggles with me as well as those who have written in with specific insights for this particular post. I had thought of one or two reasons why porn might lead to anger, but the shared personal experiences of these men has opened my eyes to several more. As a caveat, I am fully aware that a growing number of women use porn. First, when a man acts with anger out of proportion to the situation at hand, it might simply be a fruit of the lack of self-control. Obedience and sin both shape us. Our choices ultimately shape our character, for good or for ill. If we demonstrate a lack of control in one area, it will manifest itself in all other areas. False gods of every kind disappoint. Healthy marital sex leaves us with such a satisfied soul—not just immediately, but in the hours and even days that follow.
Why Feelings About Porn Are So Confusing
And, if it is sexual arousal, does that happen only in seeing a naked woman magazine, strip joint, porn or does that happen when you see a beautiful clothed woman as well? I have always been very curious about this as I think it is very different for women. Because monogamy lowers the chances that our genes will survive, men are not, by nature, monogamous creatures. But make no mistake, monogamy is a choice, not a natural state.
You enter the room and your husband quickly shuts the laptop down. Of course, it could all be innocent, but what if you suspect your husband is looking at ladies online? Should you be worried or is it just boys being boys? Do you confront him outright? Is he bored with you and thinking of having an affair? Are you not good enough for him any more?